How to Overcome Fear of Sex

Sexual intercourse is a pleasurable experience for most people who engage in it. Or at least it should be. It improves mood, regulates hormone levels, is good for the skin… there are countless benefits that sex can offer.

But this is not always the case. Due to various factors, which can be internal or external, there are still many people who are afraid of having an intimate relationship with someone.

That is why Skokka has decided to go deeper into the subject, to help everyone to have a more active and pleasurable sex life, either as a couple, or with a sexy Rhodes escort.

Phobia of sexual contact phobia

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First of all it is important to identify the level of sex phobia that the person has:

Is it just a low sexual desire, is it a more intense fear that leads to complete avoidance of sexual contact, or is it because they have had sexual dysfunction at some point and now there is a fear of the same thing happening?

The causes may be diverse, but when it comes to lack of sexual desire, some physiological factors and past experiences such as sexual abuse, bad experiences or sexual dysfunctions may stand out. Or even vaginismus, which ends up causing rejection. The rest of the cases usually come from a sexual phobia based on fear, fear of not being able to keep up with the partner, physical complexes, etc.

Complexes of all kinds

Fear is even more amplified, because nowadays there is more talk about sex and more comparison due to social networks. The truth is that there are all kinds of complexes, of self-esteem, of excessive demands, or also in cases where there has been a very restrictive sexual education, complexes due to lack of knowledge and/or experience. Sometimes even a combination of all of them.

Inexperience, lack of knowledge or a history of body-related problems can increase the fear of sexual intercourse. For both women and men, because they all share some fears, although they also have specific individual problems.

So what can help?

There are some measures that can be applied to help minimise fears and complexes related to the practice of sexual intercourse, but in order to implement them, it is first necessary to identify the individual barriers that prevent a person from practising this pleasurable activity. Broadly speaking, and according to the experienced escorts in Perth, these are:

Learn about human anatomy and physiology

It helps a lot to know the erogenous zones of the human body, not only to give pleasure to your sexual partner, but also to discover in yourself the things that give you more intense orgasms and pleasures.

Knowing your own body

In line with the previous point, knowing your own body is perhaps more important than knowing technical terms of anatomy, because each individual has a different response to stimuli and, therefore, the best option would be to identify what yours are.

Facing fear

At some point, it is necessary to get out of the “comfort zone” and face the fears, i.e. try to create a more comfortable environment for sexual intercourse to take place.

Practice

 

Many of the complexes are generated by lack of experience, which is why it is recommended to practice as much as possible, especially if you have a trusting relationship with your sexual partner, or if not, you can count on the help of the most beautiful escorts in Australia.

Exercising self-esteem

Lack of self-esteem fosters insecurity. Recognising and highlighting your strengths is an incredible exercise in self-esteem. Little things also help, like a change of look for example, how about getting that haircut you’ve been putting off for a long time?

Lower expectations

The math is simple, lower expectations to increase performance. Because the more pressure you put on yourself, the harder it will be for things to flow naturally.

Understand that sex is a whole

Understanding this, it is possible to know that penetration should be considered only a part of the whole act, and not its main actor. There are many ways to give and receive pleasure, even if it is not through penetration.

Express emotions openly

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Clearly communicating fears and insecurities to your partner can often reassure and make them feel more comfortable with the sexual act. Often, they may not even be aware of the “flaws” that can be the root of so many problems with self-esteem and, consequently, sexuality.

Don’t forget to have fun

In the end, sex is a powerful ally for health and well-being, and trying to take it more calmly and confidently can bring incredible benefits.

The best resolution is to seek out a partner with the same kind of fear. Then you’ll work on it along with your partner and make love as slowly as you wish. By the way, you do not got to be naked to take part in sex.

Try reaching to one in most of dating or sex sites and with confidence state the fear you have. This can be a fairly safe move and you should try to grasp it. You will be amazed to find out that there will be many with the same problem and you never know you bond good with that person.

The distinction between a light concern and a phobic disorder is that a phobic disorder will have a negative impact on your life in vital ways. The constant fear of sex will interfere with developing romantic relationships. It may also contribute to feelings of isolation and depression. Phobias are treatable and you just need the right cure and it can be anything

A doctor will do associate examination to ascertain if there’s a physical part to your concern of sex, and if so, he will treat that. If there’s no underlying physical side, your doctor will give you resources and referrals to therapists who focus on these phobias.

Finally, if problems continue, it is advisable to seek professional help. Some psychologists specialize in sexology and couples therapy and also treat emotional disorders that can affect sexuality.

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